Before you release the #OhMyGoshAreYouKiddingMe adult tantrum, change your perspective and see this as an investment opportunity.
Before I proceed I’m going to warn you, this is one of the most challenging things to do in the heat of the moment. But stick with me here.
When children are in this frantic state, no matter what their issue is, they are turning to you. If you have the well warranted #IWIshYouWereMoreGrateful lash out, you’ll both end up more distraught with nothing really solved. If you see this as an investment opportunity, your perspective will change and you’ll build on your relationship rather than hurt it.
Your child is turning to you and this is your chance to help. What can you say?
- I hear what your challenge is
- Here’s how I can help you solve your problem
- Here’s the consequences of each choice
- How do you want to proceed?
For example, your one child is going too slow on the slopes which has caused the faster child to race ahead and jump on the chairlift with a friend. Now your group is separated and you’ve got one child who’s complaining that the group rides too fast, and another child who’s potentially lost.
The parenting tantrum may result in the “hurry up” or “try harder” approach.